I find myself in some need of prayers, good thoughts and overall comforting words.
I haven't been diagnosed yet but I know I have hirsutism which means I have male pattern hairiness. This means I don't go out and party, I don't go swimming or exercise. My last two summers when it's grown worse I've had days when I've stayed in because I couldn't find clothes that suited the weather and hid my more hairy areas. It's become so much that instead of shaving or using some other method I get paralysed and really only shave lower legs and armpits. I'm 20+ and this really is destroying my life.
Now, I've fallen in love with a boy who lives quite far away. We haven't met yet but are planning to. He knows about this but not to the extent it effects me (even if he knows some of it) and he have said it doesn't bother him as long as I am not hairier than him or have a fur. It totally crushed me.
I can barely as it is shower without feeling so depressed that I cry. I've been trying to get to a doctor the last couple of months but haven't had the opportunity to get to one yet, they have promised I will see one within two weeks now though - we'll see. I don't go to a counsellor because this whole ordeal and some other issues have left me with a social phobia so I cannot call one.
I'm sorry for the lengthy message but I just need some words, maybe if someone else have gone through what I am going through now. It feels like I am waiting for my life to begin but I don't know how since hirstutism doesn't go away - it's there for life (if I don't pay a lot of money for permanent hair removal that might work).
I feel so stuck and so depressed. Please help.
My personal advice would be to make sure she gets seen by a doctor, and do get some counselling. Good luck!